First, I think Disney movies are like anything else in that they can be interpreted various ways depending on the eye of the beholder. If you are specifically looking for messages of gender inequality (or racial profiling, or religious bias, or discriminatory language toward persons with disabilities), you are likely to find it. In other words, you see what you want to see. But that does not mean that other people, especially children, will necessarily take away the same message.
Second, I think that it is important to remember that these are old Disney movies based on ancient fairy tales and folklore. Any messages of gender inequality that may come across in the story lines are a product of the times in which the stories were created. If a parent is overly concerned with the messages in these fairy tales, then perhaps this is a golden opportunity to teach children a mini-history lesson.
- Sleeping Beauty was originally a French fairy tale first published in 1697 by Charles Perrault in Contes de ma Mère l'Oye ("Tales of Mother Goose"), later published by the German Brothers Grimm, and then made into the Russian Tchaikovsky's ballet, which premiered at Saint Petersburg in 1890. The Disney animated film was released in 1959.
- Aladdin is a Middle Eastern folk tale in The Book of One Thousand and One Nights (Arabian Nights), although it was actually added to the collection by its French translator, Antoine Galland, who heard it from an Arab Syrian storyteller from Aleppo. His translation of "Aladdin" was made in the winter of 1709–10. The Disney animated film was released in 1992.
- Beauty and the Beast is a traditional French fairy tale, first published by Gabrielle-Suzanne Barbot de Villeneuve in La jeune américaine, et les contes marins in 1740. The Disney animated film was released in 1991.
- Cinderella is a folk tale embodying a myth-element of unjust oppression/triumphant reward. Thousands of variants are known throughout the world. The oldest known version of the story is often considered to have been recorded by the Ancient Greek historian Strabo in the 1st century BC. The Disney version of the story was based on the French version of the tale by Charles Perrault, written in 1634 in Histoires ou Contes du Temps Passé. The Disney animated film was released in 1950.
- Snow White is a fairy tale known from many countries in Europe, the best known version being the German one collected by the Brothers Grimm and published in Kinder-und Hausmärchen (Children's and Household Tales) in 1812. The Disney animated film was released in 1937.
- The Little Mermaid is a popular fairy tale by the Danish poet and author Hans Christian Andersen. It was originally written as a ballet and first published in 1837. The Disney animated film was released in 1989.
And finally, I think that it is important to remember that children receive message from many different mediums. Books, magazines, advertisements, TV shows, commercials, movies, plays, ballets, family members, friends, teachers ... they all play a part. Parents wishing to shield their children from any possible or perceived messages of gender inequality face an impossible uphill battle. In my view, it would be wiser to accept that no matter how vigilant you may be as a parent, your children are going to receive message that you do not agree with. Maybe instead of fixating on the perceived message of gender inequality in Beauty and the Beast, you should focus on the fact that Belle exerts her strong personality by refusing to be peer-pressured by the townspeople: she loves reading books and continues to do so even though it makes her unpopular, she loves her father and helps care for him even though the townspeople make fun of him for being a crazy old man, and she is willing to look beyond the Beast's external appearance (not to mention the external appearance of the Beast's entire household staff) to discover the person he is on the inside. Are these not appropriate messages for little girls to receive?
Long story short, I just think that there are far worse things than a little girl enjoying a Disney movie and imagining herself to be the heroine. I was that little girl. I remember watching Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin and The Little Mermaid countless times, and I am proud to report that I have no lasting psychological damage. In fact, I still love those movies and I think I may go watch one right now ...